naomi 355 Posted June 9, 2021 hey everyone.. (Or if you're the wife, how do you feel like you most help your husband?) Pretty broad question I realize, but answer super candidly, covering any or all life fronts that come to mind. What value does she add to your life? Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
frank 2,246 Posted June 9, 2021 4 minutes ago, naomi said: Pretty broad question I see what you did there. 3 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Utilit99 4,099 Posted June 9, 2021 5 minutes ago, naomi said: hey everyone.. (Or if you're the wife, how do you feel like you most help your husband?) Pretty broad question I realize, but answer super candidly, covering any or all life fronts that come to mind. What value does she add to your life? Looking for tips? Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
naomi 355 Posted June 9, 2021 Just now, Utilit99 said: Looking for tips? Yeah, just curious. A list of things can come to my mind conceptually. But hearing from people living it... Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Drizzay 675 Posted June 9, 2021 Serious answer: She promotes my masculinity and doesn't try to belittle me. 2 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Utilit99 4,099 Posted June 9, 2021 My girlfriend (of 9 years) helps me keep my life ordered. And she is a completely different personality than I am. I'm more carefree, she's more structured. It's a great mix for the both of us. I help her relax the burden her asian parents put on her life that she carries with her from her upbringing, and she is more no nonsense and that opens my eyes at times. 1 1 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
DonS 3,239 Posted June 9, 2021 Makes sure to mind the stepchildren https://getyarn.io/yarn-clip/00f8f679-8556-47c8-ae1d-fce4921b853d Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
DonS 3,239 Posted June 9, 2021 28 minutes ago, Utilit99 said: My girlfriend (of 9 years) helps me keep my life ordered. And she is a completely different personality than I am. I'm more carefree, she's more structured. It's a great mix for the both of us. I help her relax the burden her asian parents put had on her life that she carries with her from her upbringing, and she is more no nonsense and that opens my eyes at times. Too bad she can't fully open her eyes... Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Big Guy 1,401 Posted June 9, 2021 56 minutes ago, frank said: I see what you did there. although I'm not sure how pretty Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jerryskids 6,166 Posted June 9, 2021 Wife and I met as engineers at the same company, and we made within dollars of each other when we got married. As such we've always had an egalitarian relationship. When we had kids I was the breadwinner while she stayed home with them. When I later needed a job she was able to get one and help us keep going. Now I'm either going to be on disability or retired (which is why we are selling our house), and my wife will be the primary earner again. Basically we have been partners in life, so I guess that is what she has given me. 2 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
IGotWorms 4,022 Posted June 9, 2021 Divorced, but I can tell you it helps to not be a focking shrew. Basically, what Drizzay said. 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Hardcore troubadour 14,164 Posted June 9, 2021 Worm’s wife would let him watch sometimes. 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
titans&bucs&bearsohmy! 2,745 Posted June 9, 2021 She does pretty much all the cleaning, mostly because the mess bothers her long before I even notice it. She cooks every day or two. I really don't care if she does or not, but that's nice. Obviously she does the secks stuff. Pretty much upon request, although fairly vanilla about it, and I don't request often honestly. Other than that, not at all really. We keep completely separate finances and divide all expenses right down the middle, so money isn't really a thing in our marriage. She wants something she buys it, and vice versa. On gift giving occasions she complains that I spend too much on her, that's about the extent of it. We're pretty much hermits these days. We rarely go out, and other than our coworkers who live on our floor, we have no local friends. From an emotional side, she backs me the fock down when I'm ready to go to war over stupid sh!t, as I'm a bit of a hothead. Conversely, she tends to be a bit of a doormat (most fillipinas are) so when war needs to be waged, I do it. Shes good cop, I'm the heavy. I find our jobs. I negotiate our contracts. I plan our trips. Anything anything needs to be written in English, I do it, as it is obviously not her first language. It's very different from relationships I've had before. We never fight really. She, growing up dirt poor (I'm talking 10 kids in a literal hut made out of sheet metal with not enough food poor, didn't have shoes poor) has been used to being treated poorly. The jobs she had before were outright slavery. I don't let anyone push her around. Conversely, she really appreciates the things we get to do and the things she gets to buy far more than women I'm used to do. I figure she'll get sick of my sh!t eventually though. 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
JustinCharge 2,397 Posted June 9, 2021 1 hour ago, titans&bucs&bearsohmy! said: Obviously she does the secks stuff. Pretty much upon request, although fairly vanilla about it, and I don't request often honestly. I know! That's all she complains about when she is over my place. Not enough sex from you. So I have to fill in the gaps. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
bostonlager 2,662 Posted June 9, 2021 Honor and obey. If you can do that, you will be a great wife. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
titans&bucs&bearsohmy! 2,745 Posted June 9, 2021 11 minutes ago, bostonlager said: Honor and obey. If you can do that, you will be a great wife. Honor, sure. Obey, pass. If I wanted obedience, I'd get a dog. A wife is supposed to call you on your bullsh!t when you're wrong. 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Cloaca du jour 2,126 Posted June 9, 2021 Been married 22 years.. My wife is amazingly caring which counters my cynical get off my lawn side. She is better with organization than me. Im the breadwinner but she handles the budget. We like a lot of the same things. We have had struggles but always pull through. We are stronger together. 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
supermike80 1,599 Posted June 9, 2021 She's smarter than me. Shes very good at listening to my stressful events and breaking them down for me..which helps me tremendously when it comes to de-stressing. She takes care of the entire house. That's new since she was laid off due to Covid, but I'm good with it. Laundry, cooking, cleaning. All with her. Shes a better negotiator than I am as well. 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Hardcore troubadour 14,164 Posted June 9, 2021 What a bunch of cucks. Not one of you mentioned a sandwich. 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Hawkeye21 2,211 Posted June 9, 2021 She's the organized one since she's a teacher and coach. She gets the kids signed up for sports, camps, lessons and other activities. She coaches their sports teams. She's usually the one that lines up a babysitter so we can go out for a night or a couple days. She does most of the laundry but I help with that when I can. She's a busy woman. 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
TimmySmith 2,782 Posted June 9, 2021 She is a better person than I am. More Godly. Staunchly moral. Knows right from wrong instantly. Would never do a thing to injure another. Wouldn't steal from another under any circumstance and would turn in anyone she saw doing so, after she confronted them to allow them to rectify their deed. She is brave. Of course she has poor qualities as well like all of us. She inspires me to stay as straight as I can, which ain't that straight. Who knows what I might be without her. 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Alias Detective 1,312 Posted June 9, 2021 6 minutes ago, TimmySmith said: She is a better person than I am. More Godly. Staunchly moral. Knows right from wrong instantly. Would never do a thing to injure another. Wouldn't steal from another under any circumstance and would turn in anyone she saw doing so, after she confronted them to allow them to rectify their deed. She is brave. Of course she has poor qualities as well like all of us. She inspires me to stay as straight as I can, which ain't that straight. Who knows what I might be without her. Swear to God I married the same woman. Only thing I’ll add, my wife can hang with the boys. We are a smart a$$ group and she takes and gives a punch right with us. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Gladiators 1,960 Posted June 9, 2021 We compliment each other's strengths/weaknesses pretty well. Wife - keeps a clean house, cooks when she has time, does the morning school routine, takes care of gardening, does all the medical/dental stuff for the kids and dogs Me - run the finances, handle most of the online stuff (register kids for sports, school registrations/communications, schedule vacations, etc.), take care of all the house maintenance My wife's works extremely hard. She rarely sits down and relaxes. She doesn't have to work, but does so because she enjoys it and likes to get out/be productive. Most of the women she works with sit on their phones or gossip when there's down time. My wife is the one cleaning, checking stock and helping others who are behind. I'm a GC member, so my wife is perfect. 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
frank 2,246 Posted June 9, 2021 22 minutes ago, TimmySmith said: She inspires me to stay as straight as I can, which ain't that straight. Who knows what I might be without her. Gay? 2 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
RLLD 3,928 Posted June 9, 2021 We have a partnership. We do not have to ask each other to step up in a given situation. We see need and we fill it, period. Now gender roles still arise where my wife might be too inconvenienced, but I also like being needed and useful. One of the challenges for me as the kids grow is that I am less needed....and that is sometimes painful for me. But it is also gratifying too, its complicated. When I ask for help, mostly from the kids, and they shirk it I do point out that everyone in this house needs me, asks from me, and I never ask for anything.....and if I decide to stop helping it will hurt an awful lot, so on that rare occasion where I ask for something, people better step the fock up..... 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
TimmySmith 2,782 Posted June 9, 2021 55 minutes ago, frank said: Gay? Gayer, for sure. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
MDC 6,754 Posted June 9, 2021 All your wives help with my pecker. Your moms too. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
peenie 1,812 Posted June 9, 2021 This really warms my heart Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
TheNewGirl 1,192 Posted June 9, 2021 He's my partner. We are in this together. He's also my BFF. That pretty much sums it up. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
DonS 3,239 Posted June 9, 2021 My wife is very organized so she takes care of paying all the bills. Her healthcare background also comes in handy when figuring out medical insurance crap. Oh yeah, it also came in handy during my fun summer of radiation/chemo/feeding tube. Now I get to return the favor but thankfully her treatment has been easy peasy in comparison. So far at least. <knock on wood> She can also bring home the bacon, fry it up in a pan, and she never let's me forget I'm a man. 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
NorthernVike 2,082 Posted June 9, 2021 Wife went to see the doctor with two black eyes. The doctor asked her what happened? She replied that her husband comes home after work and having a few beers and hits her. He told her to drink a cup of water every day just before her husband comes home and to hold the water in her mouth. Two weeks latter she goes back to the doctor, her eyes are bright and beautiful. She asks him how drinking and holding a cup of water would work so well. His reply... see what happens when you keep your mouth shut. A life lesson for naomi. 2 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Hardcore troubadour 14,164 Posted June 9, 2021 No mention of cup sizes, sandwiches and very little about housekeeping. One guy is taking about his wife’s coaching ability. WTF? 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
IGotWorms 4,022 Posted June 9, 2021 1 hour ago, Hardcore troubadour said: No mention of cup sizes, sandwiches and very little about housekeeping. One guy is taking about his wife’s coaching ability. WTF? I think I’ve mentioned several times that your John Wayne act is extremely old and tired. Up to you whether you adjust 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Hardcore troubadour 14,164 Posted June 9, 2021 2 minutes ago, IGotWorms said: I think I’ve mentioned several times that your John Wayne act is extremely old and tired. Up to you whether you adjust It’s a joke you miserable pr1ck 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
frank 2,246 Posted June 9, 2021 13 minutes ago, Hardcore troubadour said: It’s a joke you miserable pilgrim 1 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Hardcore troubadour 14,164 Posted June 9, 2021 12 minutes ago, frank said: Good one! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
DonS 3,239 Posted June 9, 2021 1 hour ago, Hardcore troubadour said: No mention of cup sizes, sandwiches and very little about housekeeping. One guy is taking about his wife’s coaching ability. WTF? This thread is like when a sitcom in the 80s/90s would have a "very special' episode which tackled serious topics. "In this week's very special episode of Blossom, the show tackles the difficult abortion choices that Blossom faces after she is brutally gang raped by illegal immigrants at a Menudo concert" We'll get back to normal soon. 1 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
